Not one person can tell you how to handle your anxiety, however we can help each other and see if we see improvement. I’ve suffered from anxiety since high school, I wasn’t unpopular or bullied but I struggled with daily things. Such as turning up to school without being ill. And for years and years we never knew what it was. At the age of 16 I decided to move away and start fresh in Cheshire, UK. Best thing I ever did. However my anxiety never went, I was so scared of feeling ashamed about being poorly but my dad was very supportive, it wasn’t until 2015, I realised it could be mental issue rather than a physical illness, I suffer from IBS, Panic Attacks which cause my seizures, migranes. Asthma and it is nothing compared to some people but it has been a big Hill to climb and I’m no way near the top.
Some of the ways I have learnt to calm myself when I am anxious are:
Be around people you feel safe around, because you may feel like you’re going pass out or hurt yourself.
I try to be around my boyfriend or best friend because they don’t go on about my anxiety, they understand that I just need to concentrate on something else, which moves into tip two.
Tip 2: concentrate on something else.
My tip is find a programme you can watch or something to listen to. For example: The Big Bang Theory is closely the only thing which can calm me down I dont know why. But to me The Big Bang Theory is something which makes me relax, once I relax I tend to feel ten times better. When I’m out I have Netflix on my phone so I just go on that, a bit anti-social I know, but it’s worth it tbh.
Tip 3: do not feel like you’re dying. Reassure yourself.
The hardest feeling is feeling like you’re never going to get better, that you’re at the end and you’re in so much pain, but reassure your self, talk yourself down. Keep thinking you’re going be ok, that you have been through this before and If you’re around someone who you trust, tell them what is wrong, ask them to make you concentrate on something.
My previous relationship my anxiety was so bad but I’d always try reassure myself and my partner would laugh and take the piss, that’s when I knew I couldn’t be around him when I was anxious. Never feel ashamed (I’m going to write a blog post about feeling ashamed and why you shouldn’t be, so keep watching) you are strong and that’s all that matters.
Tip 4: Self-help is a good answer.
To be totally honest when I went to the local GP about my anxiety, this was in 2015 at the start, they didn’t believe me and just put me on some strong tablets. Which doesn’t work, I’m currently on tablets which affect each other (stupid I know). Some I decided so look myself, I went on the NHS website (which I’ll add at the bottom) which gave me booklets on different things. I started speaking with other people who suffered from anxiety or depression, I started making friends again and gradually I started enjoying my life again, even though I’ve suffered badly with anxiety, I’ve always pushed past it, I’d be sick for a few hours and then just go out. I’d prepare knowing I was scared of the next day ahead.
Tip 5: never give up, it does get easier.
I know I sound like a hyperotheic but it’s true, don’t give up because you have people around you who love you and worship you. You’re anxiety won’t ever get the better of you, you may feel like it does however it won’t. Respect yourself, love yourself and live you’re life. Experience things which you’re anxiety has previously stopped you doing. Because you deserve to live your life without feeling scared.
No-one deserves to be unhappy, I’ve learnt the hard way that you should leave the negative people in the past move on and find positive people who want you to be happy and be inspired.
Be inspired and push your limits.